How to Support Loved Ones During Difficult Times

When a loved one is going through a tough time, we often reach out with good intentions, asking, “How are you feeling today?” or offering, “Let me know if you need anything.” But have you ever noticed how those questions can sometimes feel empty, leaving the person feeling more isolated or pressured to say “I’m fine” when they’re anything but? If you’ve ever been in that position, you know that those well-meaning messages don’t always provide the support needed. It’s time for a different approach, one rooted in consistent presence, unconditional love, and a focus on mental wellness.

Why Surface-Level Support Isn’t Enough

It’s common to check in with a text or a call: “How are you doing today?” But let’s be honest: when you’re struggling, it’s hard to open up even to those who love you. Those well-meaning words can unintentionally dig the person deeper into a hole, especially when they feel like they have to lie about their emotions to avoid burdening others. I’ve been there, and I know it can feel isolating.

Instead of offering generic support, we need to provide something that allows space for the person to heal without pressure—a steady, consistent presence that doesn’t demand anything in return.

The Power of Unconditional Love and Consistency

Real healing starts when we show up for others without the expectation of fixing their anxious, worried, or depressed problems. What if, instead of asking, “How are you feeling?” we offered, “I’m going for a walk every Monday at 5:30 PM. I’ll give you a call at 5:15 to check-in. You’re welcome to join me if you’d like, no worries if not. I just want to be here for you.”

This simple offer gives your loved one a chance to join in, but doesn’t put pressure on them to be “okay.” You’re not offering solutions, you’re offering your presence—something consistent and reliable. This type of support fosters trust and hope, which is essential for healing.

Healing Needs Structure and Consistency

Healing is not a quick fix; it’s a process. But when you offer a steady, predictable rhythm of support, you help the person create a structure they can lean on. Just like a broken bone needs time to heal, emotional recovery takes time, too. And just like a bone requires a cast for support and structure, emotional recovery benefits from a consistent framework—whether it’s through weekly walks, daily puzzles, or simple activities that provide comfort and routine.

By showing up week after week, whether it’s through a walk, a puzzle, or just a phone call, you create a space of stability. Over time, the person begins to trust that they’re not alone in their journey, and that’s when healing starts to unfold.

It’s Okay to Say No: Healing Takes Time

One of the toughest parts of supporting someone is facing their initial rejection. They might say no to your invitations at first. But this is part of the healing process. Just as our muscles need rest after a tough workout, our minds need breaks, too. The brain can only process so much at a time. Sometimes, your loved one might need a mental break, and that’s okay.

Invite them to do something simple with you—go for a walk, build a puzzle together, throw a frisbee, go fishing, or even paint some watercolors. If they say no, don’t be discouraged. Give them time and space to heal at their own pace. Understand that rejection is not personal, and over time, they may start to accept the invitation.

The Healing Power of Presence

Sometimes, the most healing thing we can offer is our undivided attention. When someone is going through a difficult time, they don’t always need solutions; they need a safe, supportive, and brave space where they can simply exist without judgment. Just being there, whether it’s through a weekly walk or a casual check-in, helps create that sense of safety and stability.

Your presence, without the pressure to “fix” anything, can be the consistent force that helps them feel supported and eventually empowered to heal on their own terms.

Focusing on Movement, Nature, Faith, and Science as Tools for Recovery

At Healing Hobbies, we believe in the power of movement, nature, faith, and science as tools for recovery. These elements provide a holistic approach to wellness, helping individuals reconnect with themselves in meaningful ways. Through outdoor activities like walks, nature hikes, or engaging in mindful movement, we create an environment that encourages healing and well-being.

Just like our muscles need rest after a workout, our minds need time away from the stresses of daily life. Taking time to engage the body in gentle movement allows us to reset, reconnect, and heal—both physically and emotionally. Adding faith to the process brings hope, purpose, and direction. And with science-backed methods, we support a balanced approach to mental wellness that fosters growth, resilience, and lasting change.

Conclusion:

Supporting someone through a tough time doesn’t require grand gestures or perfect words. What it requires is a consistent presence and unconditional love. It’s about showing up, being patient, and understanding that healing is a process. By offering your support week after week, even through small gestures like a walk, a puzzle, or painting together, you provide the structure and stability needed to foster healing.

Remember, while unconditional love is powerful, there may be times when professional help is necessary. Mental health counselors, psychiatrists, coaches, and other mental health professionals play an important role in helping those who need extra support. If things get too overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from a professional who can offer the tools and strategies needed to navigate through tough times.

Healing is a journey, and it’s always better when you don’t have to walk it alone.